My Father In-Law Died Today

What do you say in the short term when someone close to you, and those you love dearly, passes away? I’m sure it’s different for everyone, but here is my perspective!

At the time I started writing this, my father in-law died a mere three hours ago, it wasn’t unexpected and the pain is so fresh it is surreal. One of the main reasons I haven’t blogged in a month is our time has been focused on him. Now that he is gone, and everyone in my life is mentally & physically drained to the point of exhaustion, they have gone to bed early tonight. I can’t! It’s time to pour my guts out the best way I know how!

He was 63, lived a hard life in every way imaginable, and only really got to know the people who loved him most during the last 6 months! That may sound strange, but it is a reality that we will struggle with until they day we are gone and is a novel unto itself. In the end, cancers a bitch, and I will spare you the details, but he was suppose to have more time. It was not to be.

I remember asking him a month back if he could share with me if there was anything, any advice, he could pass on to me. His response was, “Don’t make me cry!” So with nothing to share, my greatest connection to him became a promise. That promise being that I would always take care of his daughter and three grand-daughters! On his deathbed, a mere 2.5 hours before he passed, I said to him, “I promise to take care of your daughter and schnookies.” Then I said goodbye and cried! He didn’t squeeze my hand, he didn’t moan, nor did he blink his eyes! However, I feel deep down to the core that he heard me.

So what do I say? Right or wrong here it goes:

1. What a rip off! 63 is too freaking young, and damn it is more than unfair. I am glad he isn’t suffering anymore.

2. I’m a husband, who like most guys wants to becMr. Fix It, and I can’t do a damn thing to make my wife feel better. This is a pain I have not seen In her face before, and frankly it tears me up inside.

3. After telling our 10,8, & 4 year old daughters their Opa had died, I cried. The only consolation here is that, I think, because we have not shielded them from the truth all along, they took the news in stride. They cried, but quickly went back to playing like kids should. When we asked our 4 year old if she understood what died means, her response was, “It means you can’t ever come home or see your friends again!” Wow is an understatement!

4. I do feel a minor sense of a relief that a major burden affecting the entire family has been lifted.

5. Did I say already cancers a bitch?

—–
I had to stop writing and started again 5 days later.
—–

6. He is at peace.

7. Death is a stark reminder to live every day to it’s fullest. It so easy to get lost in the day to day routine.

8. The world keeps turning and life does go on after a loved one dies.

9. Fathers love your daughters!

10. Rest In Peace

One day, hopefully a long time from now, I too will die and hope to have the strength, courage and conviction to pass on with out once complaining. My father in-law left this place as a true gentleman.

Rest in Peace Manfred… Rest in Peace!

Patrick Henry Hughes Rocks

Words can’t describe… just watch or listen to this video!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9xwCG0Ey2Mg[/youtube]

Suck It Up

If you are in business, sales, marketing or even in a majority of JOB type positions, I think you will be able to relate. My hope is this hits someone exactly when they needed it most!

Here are just a few RANTs you may have heard before:

There wasn’t enough capital raised for the company to fly. I’m burnt out. I’m too old. I’m too young.  Someone stole my idea. Nobody wants to take a meeting.  If we would have only done one thing different it would have worked. The technology isn’t good enough to launch. Our competition is one step ahead. The widget manufacturer screwed us over. The bank won’t lend to us. Our website isn’t good enough.

Screw the WHAT IFs,  the COULD HAVEs & the SHOULD HAVEs.

Suck it up buttercup and do something. Do anything! If it fails, suck it up again, and go after whatever it is you are chasing even harder.

OK, so maybe the sucking on lemons analogy didn’t quite hit the mark, but watch this video below and the next time you feel you’ve been beat down think of this mouse and power on!!!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YqlQS5CCmwI[/youtube]

Failure is merely a 7 letter word you are going to have to get use to if you want the big wins.

Your Bucket List

Ya, Ya… I know!!! The movie has been out for over three years, but have you used that as a fire under you  to put together the list of things you want, activities you most desire to do,  or are committed to trying to achieve before you die.

I’ve posted mine online here, but this isn’t about me…its about you!

Have a little listen to John Mayer, who wrote a song for the movie, & while your at it,  grab a piece of paper and start making your own bucket list. Then start living & loving the list :)

The majority of us don’t know when our number is up. Live for today!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gt58Z_XuGe4[/youtube]