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In Over Your Head

I think we have all felt at times we are in over our head. Whether that’s with work, family, or an extreme combination of the two.  The analogy is easy to understand and relate to; an inexperienced swimmer falls into water thats too deep. You feel like you can’t get up for air!

The common theme is that it is always about a specific situation. It is often short lived. I like Derek Siver’s blog post of a few years back best that says, ” Stay In over Your Head!”

Whatever you’re doing in your life right now, if it’s become a routine, it’s time to move on to something new and scary.

Abraham Maslow wrote, “Life is an ongoing process of choosing between safety (out of fear and need for defense) and risk (for the sake of progress and growth): Make the growth choice a dozen times a day.”

Whatever scares you, go do it.

As the Olympics are going on right now, do you think that just possibly a few Medal winners felt at the most stressful point of their events that they just might be in over their head!

Whether its a new job, a new project,  family pressures or extreme time restraints you really only have two options:

1. Fake it until you make it!

2. Stick your tail between your legs and give up!

It’s your decision!

5 Most Stressful Life Events

Stress permeates all of our lives and has an affect on everything we do; from our daily jobs and personal relationships to our ability to concentrate.

A long time ago I came across a list of the Top 5 Most Stressful Life Events and committed them to memory. Here they are in no particular order:

  1. Death
  2. Job Change
  3. Marriage
  4. Divorce
  5. Personal Injury

Why am I writing about life events?

Well, quite simply the more we can personally reduce or understand the stresses in our life, in theory, the better we can perform and enjoy life. More importantly, by understanding that anyone who we may be talking to, emailing, communicating or writing for may possibly be experiencing one of life’s most stressful events, it just might change how we approach people or communicate. I’m not saying we go around assuming that everyone we speak with just had a family member pass away, but odds are if you communicate with a large amount of people on a regular basis, then you will be touching a few stressed out folks that are currently going though one of life’s most stressful events.

I know awareness is sometimes not the only answer.

No matter how tough the times are… I know most people can help themselves get though almost anything. Sometime though, you need to recognize when you can’t. That’s when you need to reach out for help. Seek out a friend, a teacher, a doctor, your church, or anyone who will listen. If it’s real bad, and you or someone else is in immediate danger you HAVE to call 911 or the police.

If you are in the midst of experiencing one of life’s five most stressful events right now… my thoughts go out to you, and If there is anything I can do to digitally assist you please post your comment below & I will do my best (sorry that sometimes I am slow to respond). Either way, it often helps to write out what you are feeling. Feel free to use my comment section to let it out and get it out of your mind for a moment.